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This was one of those photoshoots where I was pretty nervous before I met them and also during our Zoom call. It was a time between lockdowns and many, “Can I go on with my job, because the pandemic is finally over or are we all just waiting for the next wave?” So in 2021 I already was – from time to time – allowed to have photoshoots, but it was a very rare occasion. Not gonna lie that my insecurities affected me a lot and also made me doubt if I can still be a good photographer and have a fluent conversation, because I rarely had the chance to take photos for a year now and haven‘t spoken with strangers in… well… quite a while. I was nervous if I can give them what they expected from me and what my photography stands for. (Although in 2021 my photography- and editing language wasn‘t as coherent as it is today.)

During our Zoom Call we ended up choosing a location that is near to their home. It was a little lake and therefore a new location for me, since I never was there or had a lake-photoshoot before.

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How did you direct your subject(s)?

The photo itself looks like silence, but my direction was actually excited and funny! While they played a game and answered my questions on, “Who would rather…?”, I never payed attention to their faces. They thought I capture their reactions and laughter, but I actually payed attention to their silent communication: Their hands.

Hands have their own love language. And while J & M concentrated on the questions, they haven‘t payed attention to their hands at all. So I captured the language and the natural movements of their hands. I tried to capture the silence within all the spoken words.

What did you say?

Can you come a little bit closer to each other and hold your hands? I would love to play a game with you, if that‘s okay? I‘ll start to ask questions beginning with ‘Who would rather…?‘ and I want you to answer this question with your own or your partners name. I will count “one, two three” and then give me your answer! So. Who would rather…

How did you compose your image?

I cropped it to a little bit off center, because I love the space around it and how it gives you slightly more dynamic than a center-cropped photo.

How and what did you focus on?

The only troubles I had for focus, was when their hands disappeared behind their bodies. Since I haven‘t told them that I payed attention to their hands and not their faces, they sometimes lowered them or let them disappear behind their bodies. But patience was the key.


How did you use the light in your image?

The light was very soft, so I had no difficulties with harsh shadows. But it was my first time shooting at a lake and I had to get to know what it means to have a reflecting surface in the background. Since we had no harsh sunlight it wasn‘t that bad but a surprise from how many directions it influenced the photo.

What was the gear & settings you used?

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Nikon D750


Nikkor 85mm f/1.8





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How did you edit your image & what did you use?

One single word: cropping. I spoke about the love language of hands, how they communicate so much without saying a word at all. To support this non-spoken and intimate language (and since I haven‘t told them that I photograph their hands, so I stand a bit further away from them) I cropped quite a lot. Don‘t be afraid to straighten and crop a photo. Cropping = magic. Cropping = intimacy.

Software Used

Adobe Lightroom CC


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What challenges did you face?

One challenge was to stand further away, distract them with questions/games and secretly capture their hands, although they sometimes lowered them or moved their bodies between the camera and their hands.

How did you solve them?

Patience is the key. I went on with my questions/games as long as possible to get a few shots of their hands. To support my idea of this shot I cropped it quite a lot.

Can you share any last thoughts or advice?

Don‘t be afraid to crop a photo! I repeat it: Don‘t be afraid to crop a photo! This can give your shot a completely different meaning and vibe. It often brings way more intimacy into a photo.

Selina Schöberl

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When I was 16 I quit photography. I thought I‘d never be good enough. I thought people were laughing about my work. So I quit.

Eight years later I‘m proving my 16-year old self wrong! Here I am. A Couple- and weddingphotographer, playing with light and shadow while capturing love stories all over Europe.

Little me, I wish you could see me now.

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